Therapy and Coaching for High-Achieving, Perfectionist Moms
Break free from the pressure, and find peace in who you are—inside and outside of motherhood.
You’ve always pushed yourself to be the best. But now, it feels like no matter how hard you try, it’s never enough. In motherhood, the pressure to get everything right is constant, and it’s exhausting.
You’re carrying the weight of it all—the mental load, the anxiety, the endless expectations. But you don’t have to keep struggling alone. I help high-achieving, perfectionist moms like you untangle the overwhelm, ease the anxiety, and rediscover the confidence that’s been buried under all the pressure.
Imagine a life where you don’t have to choose between success and well-being. Where your drive can coexist with the peace you crave, and you can thrive—in every part of your life.
Let’s do this together.
I offer online therapy for moms in Texas and Massachusetts, and coaching nationwide.
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I see you, trying so hard
and Still Feeling Like It’s Not Enough
You’ve always held yourself to high standards. Whether it’s in your career, your relationships, or now as a mom, you’re driven to give it your all. Motherhood hasn’t changed that—it’s made you even more intentional about being the kind of mom you want to be.
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But no matter how hard you try, the pressure feels relentless.
Sound familiar? “Why does it feel like I’m failing, even when I’m doing everything?” you wonder. You’re balancing it all—managing the household, nurturing your family, handling work, and still trying to find a moment for yourself. But let’s be real: most days, it feels like you’re barely keeping your head above water.
And when people say, “Stop trying to be perfect” or “There’s no such thing as a perfect mom,” it sounds simple, but you know it’s not. It’s deeper than that. Because for you, it’s not about chasing perfection; it’s about making sure you’re doing right by everyone you love. That drive to give your best sometimes slips into perfectionism, and even then, it feels like it’s still not enough.
“Am I doing this right?” you ask yourself, even when you know you’re giving it your all. The truth is, you’re not just chasing perfection—you’re striving to feel like you’re getting this motherhood thing right. And that’s exhausting.
Being a high-achiever isn’t new for you—it’s just who you are. You’ve always had that drive to do more, be more, push harder. But these days, it feels like the pressure’s been cranked up to full blast, and there’s no volume knob to turn it down.
“Why can’t I just get it together?” you wonder, even as you’re juggling a thousand things at once. You’re thoughtful, driven, and you care so deeply about being the best mom you can be. But it’s exhausting. The demands of everyday life, combined with that voice inside pushing you to do better, have you feeling like you’re stuck on a never-ending treadmill, just running in place.
If you’ve caught yourself thinking, “I’m doing everything I can, so why does it still feel like I’m failing?”—it’s not because you’re not trying hard enough. That constant, exhausting race doesn’t have to be your reality. There’s a way to honor your drive and high standards without burning out.
Imagine waking up with more ease in your day, knowing exactly where your focus needs to be, and feeling more confidence that you’re getting it right—without the constant, suffocating pressure. It’s not about lowering your standards; it’s about finding a way to bring your peace and your drive into harmony.
You deserve that, and together, we’ll figure out how to make it happen.
Motherhood turns up the volume on those expectations as a high-achieving, perfectionist mom—inside and out.
HERE'S WHAT I WANT YOU TO KNOW:
Ready to Feel More Ease in Your Life?
hello there.
I’m vanessa,
YOUR relatable mom-therapist
Not the social-media kind of relatable—the real-life perfectionist, overthinking, and high-achiever kind.
I know firsthand how perfectionism can fuel success but also lead to burnout and anxiety, especially for high-achievers and perfectionists navigating motherhood.
For years, I let my perfectionism drive me. It helped me succeed in my career, but when I became a mom, I realized it was also leaving me exhausted and feeling like I wasn’t doing enough. The pressure was overwhelming.
That’s when I learned something that changed everything: you don’t need to get rid of your perfectionism to feel confident. That's right...there’s a difference between unhealthy perfectionism that leads to burnout, stress, and anxiety, and healthy perfectionism that helps you thrive.
You just need to learn how to manage it. It’s not about overcoming who you are; there is nothing wrong with you—it’s about recognizing what is it about womanhood and motherhood that is fueling the burnout, anxiety, and stress, and learning how to make perfectionism work for you, not against you.
Now, I help other high-achieving, perfectionist moms like you do the same.
HYPE GIRL, wellness enthusiast, boy mom, CREATIVE, intentional
I help high-achieving, perfectionist moms manage the burnout that comes from internal, external, and societal pressures, heal from the expectations that fuel it, and embrace self-compassion during matrescence and postpartum—so they can thrive in motherhood, on their own terms.
In a nutshell:
Which Path Is Right for You? Empowering high-achieving, perfectionist moms Through:
Therapy
Weekly sessions designed to help you untangle anxiety, manage perfectionism, and find lasting balance—no matter how chaotic life gets.
Coaching
My signature online group coaching program for moms, providing practical tools and strategies for managing perfectionism and expectations day-to-day.
Courses
Courses and workshops to support moms in their motherhood, and Matrescence journey with perfectionism, burnout, and anxiety.
Working with Vanessa has been instrumental in my growth.
She has brought balance into my life
- Therapy client
As a holistic therapist specializing in Matrescence and Perfectionism, I understand the unique challenges that high-achieving moms face.
You Deserve More Than ‘Let Go’ Advice
You’ve been carrying the weight of high expectations—your own, and the ones society piles on moms. And when people say, “Just let go of perfectionism,” it’s like they don’t get it. That’s not the answer. Your drive is part of who you are, and you don’t want to lower your standards; you just want to stop feeling like you’re barely keeping your head above water.
“I’m doing everything I can, but it still feels like I’m falling behind,” you tell yourself, wondering if you’ll ever find a way to make it all work. But what if, instead of feeling crushed by the pressure, you could actually use your drive to create a version of motherhood that feels right for you? Imagine taking care of your family and yourself without the constant fear of falling behind or the guilt of thinking you’re not enough.
This isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about freeing yourself from those impossible standards you’ve been conditioned to accept and finding a way to thrive on your own terms.
I’m here to help you redefine what motherhood looks like for you—where your high standards become a source of strength, not stress. Together, we’ll create a plan that lets you feel more present, less overwhelmed, and more in tune with the kind of mom you truly want to be.
and that starts now
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I’d say, ‘Grab your favorite drink and settle in,’ but let’s be real—you’re probably sneaking in a read while hiding from your kids. Wherever you are, I’ve got you.
SIDE EFFECTS MAY INCLUDE: feeling seen, dropping the self-doubt, and finally embracing the mom you’ve always been meant to be.
so, no more hiding
It's time to feel good enough.
You don’t have to keep pretending you’ve got it all together while secretly feeling like you’re falling apart. You’ve been pushing, juggling, and trying to hold everything up, but it’s okay to admit it’s too much. It’s time to stop feeling like you’re ‘too much’ or that you’re not doing motherhood right. You deserve to feel confident, in control, and at peace with who you are—as both a mother and a woman.
Whether you’re ready for therapy or coaching, let’s work together to help you harness your perfectionism, quiet your self-doubt, and finally feel like the incredible mom you already are. Because you are enough. Ready to get started?
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